Asks

Things that are useful to ask for
Presence

Do you have space for me right now?

Attention

Can I get your full attention for a moment?

Connect

Would you like to catch up sometime?

Listening

Could you just listen while I talk this through?

Sharing

Would you be open to sharing how you're feeling too?

Validation

Does this make sense to you too?

Need

Would it be okay if I said what I really need?

Forgiveness

Can we reconnect so I don’t have to carry this anymore?

Sharing

Can I share something that might help us feel closer?

Reassurance

Can you tell me that this doesn’t change how you see me?

Affirmation

Do you believe I’m enough, even when I’m struggling?

Softening

Could you speak gently to me so I can remain open?

Need

Here’s what I really need — can I tell you?

Consideration

Could you keep my situation in mind?

Emotional

I’m overwhelmed — can you sit with me in it?

Admission

I want to tell you something that’s hard for me.

Forgiveness

Can you see that I care and want to make it right?

Sharing

Can I tell you what I’ve been going through?

Room

Is there a place for me here?

Admittance

Is it okay if I join this?

Permission

Would it be alright if I did things this way?

Validation

Does this make sense to you too?

Admission

Can I admit something that’s been weighing on me?

Need

Would it be okay to ask for support?

Forgiveness

Can you forgive me?

Listening

Can I tell you what I'm trying to accomplish?

Resources

Do you have something I could use for this?

Enablement

Could you show me how to do this on my own?

Practical

Can you help me carry this out?

Guidance

Can you be there with me while I try this?

Accountability

Can I check in with you regularly to stay on track?

Sensemaking

Can you help me understand what happened?

Validation

Is it okay that I feel this way?

Consideration

Could you take my side into account before deciding?

Admission

There’s something I need to own before we move forward.

Forgiveness

Can we repair this so we’re back on solid ground?

Grounding

Can you help me calm down and find my footing?

Reality Check

Am I reading this right, or am I way off?

Fairness

Do you think that was fair?

Listening

Can you listen to what I have to say?

Understanding

Can you try to understand where I'm coming from?

Space

Can you put your judgments and biases aside?

Consideration

Can you be mindful of my needs and boundaries?

Permission

Can you allow me to be who I was meant to be?

Humility

Can you be open to the possibility that you might be wrong?

Fairness

Can I get the same treatment as everybody else?

Trust

Can you show me the trust I have earned?

Respect

Can you show me the respect you yourself expect from others?

Promise

Can you keep your promise to me?

Admittance

Can you admit that you were wrong?

Insights

What would you do if you were in my place?

Validation

Does this seem like a reasonable next step?

Exploration

Would you be open to brainstorming with me?

Discovery

What do you think this is really about?

Direction

Where would you go if you were me?

Clarification

Could you explain what you meant by that?

Validation

Does this seem like a reasonable path forward?

Reality Check

Does this feel grounded in how things really are?

Alignment

Does this direction seem like a good fit?

Perspective

What’s your take on this direction?

Clarification

Am I missing something important here?

Confidence

Can you help me feel more solid in this?

Assessment

Do you think this could be valuable?

Offering

Is there anything I can take off your plate?

Opportunity

Could I be involved in this project?

Need

What do you need that I might help with?

Sharing

Would it help to hear my experience with this?

Trust

Are you willing to share with me?

Experience

What have you been going through?

Concerns

What are you worried might go wrong?

Struggles

What are you finding hard to solve?

Pains

Which pains are you experiencing?

Needs

What do you need right now?

Vulnerability

Would you be open to receiving support?

Resonance

Do you see yourself in this?

Relevance

Does this map onto your current set of circumstances?

Fit

Do you think this could be a good fit for you?

Assessment

Do you think this could be valuable to you?

Trial

Would you be willing to try this?

Trust

Do you trust me to support you in your journey?

Alignment

Are we aligned on where this is heading?

Permission

Are you comfortable with this step I’m taking?

Change

Could we try something different going forward?

Admission

There’s something I need to say to make things right.

Forgiveness

Can we put this behind us and reset?