I keep meeting people who meant to follow up on something important. Then they got interrupted. Then they did not remember. It was not because they did not care. It was because it only lived in their head. After that comes the urgency. Then comes the shame.
I care more about things being able to sit somewhere outside the head, and about being able to find them again, than about training people to “pull themselves together” harder. More lists and more pressure often make the shame bigger.
What I want is support that remembers with you — without turning all of life into a project about becoming more efficient.
Challenges I run into
School, work, and most tools expect you to remember what happened, remember the goal, and come back on time. For many people with ADHD, that is exactly what is hard.
When the “help” still becomes stricter routines and more things to keep track of, people get more to fail at. They do not get more to lean on.
Then people quickly assume you did not care. Often you meant to follow up. You just lost your grip along the way.
What I think matters to watch for
Agreements, needs, and what is in motion have to be able to sit somewhere outside the head. And it has to be possible to come back without feeling like you have failed.
If the system punishes you for opening it again later, you will not dare put anything down.
I would rather look at whether shame is going down, and whether people actually come back to what they put down, than at whether they deliver more without interruption.
How Relatable fits in
Relatable lets needs, what is stuck, and what you want to follow up sit somewhere outside the head. Then it can be picked up again when attention has been elsewhere.
For me that hits exactly there: support for coming back, not only pressure to remember longer.